Grace is something that is hard to come by from others and can especially be hard to give to ourselves.
If you are on a path that includes wellness as your end goal, it’s time to start giving. A lot.
To achieve a dream or a goal, no matter how big or small, the first thing you need to realize is that you are unique and your path will be equally as unique. Your life and your picture of wellness is not supposed to look like that of anyone else.
It is easy to feel shame because you don’t look like everyone else at the gym, in the pool or on the trail. You may be overweight, older, slower, or your form may be less than perfect. That’s okay. Give yourself a little grace.
This is your body and your life. It was given to you and you alone. What you do with it is up to you. Achieve your version of well the best way you know how. The way to do this is to love yourself for who you are, where you’ve been and to know you don’t need to look like everyone else or have everything figured out.
When you set your sights on a goal, keep in mind your path to that goal is unique and that is what makes it so great. If others are willing to share their story with you, glean wisdom from them, be inspired and encouraged by them but realize your path is going to look very different.
You have the opportunity to write your own story. Stop looking around at what others are doing and thinking that’s what you must do to be successful. Pepper in more grace here.
To that end, also realize you can create goals and draw up plans to achieve them but not every day will go as planned.
Stick to the plan as best you can but know there will always be things that get in the way. Instead of beating yourself up, add in some more grace, live one day at a time and know that no two days will be the same.
Every day does not have to be this perfect thing in order to achieve your goal.
Look at your life and figure out when you can fit in wellness, whether it is prepping meals for the week ahead or getting in a trip to the gym. For a lot of people, that trip to the gym is right after work. For you, it might be at 5 in the morning or 10 o’clock at night and that’s okay. If your goals are worth accomplishing, they are worth heading to the gym at 5am.
If you have small children, you may struggle to squeeze in exercise or eat healthy foods at this stage in your life. Be okay with the struggle. Enjoy the time and the moments you have and know this too shall pass. The certain thing about life is that it always changes. The kids will grow and more time to eat right, go on a meditation retreat, workout daily or sleep more will come. Add another pinch of grace.
When you are feeling down about your efforts or your results, remember, there are no mistakes – only lessons. Your life, the people in it, the challenges your face – these are not mistakes. Everything you experience shape you into who you are and how you tackle the world. Learn from the lows as well as the highs.
Life is a gift and this one was given to you.
Make it awesome – whatever your version of awesome looks like.
To that point, we are all just trying to live our best life. As you’re giving more grace to yourself, don’t forget to offer it to others. They may need it more than you do.
Approach every day with kindness both for yourself and for others and do the best you can. You will mess up. Workouts will be missed, foods will be eaten that your doctor has asked you to avoid. It’s okay. When it happens, sprinkle a little extra forgiveness into your life and carry on.
You are cut out for this.
You can do this.
Now go get it.